Teo Cheng Chuan played the Sergeant-At-Arms role for the very first time. He led the ice-breaker session by self-introduction and how they spend their Chinese New Year holiday.
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Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how
to live with insecurity is the only security
~ John Allen Paulos ~
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Uncertainty & insecurity are not very
comfortable words. They give me worries. I feel more at ease with certainty
& security. I’m sure you do too.
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So how do we live uncertainty & insecurity?
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I recently come across some readings on “Fixed
mindset vs Growth mindset” by Dr Carol Dweck. It provided me some mental anchor
as I get tossed about in the sea of uncertainty & insecurity.
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What’s “Fixed mindset vs Growth mindset”?
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Fixed mindset people see their talents
& abilities as fixed traits ie nothing can be done to change it. They
become over-concerned with proving their talents & abilities, hiding
deficiencies, and reacting defensively to mistakes or setbacks because deficiencies
and mistakes imply a permanent lack of talent or ability. These people might
actually miss opportunities to learn & grow if there’s a risk of showing
weaknesses.
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Growth mindset people believe that
their talents & abilities can be developed through passion, education &
persistence. For these people, it's not about looking smart or grooming their
image. It's about a commitment to learning; it’s about taking informed risks
& learning from the results; it’s about surrounding themselves with people
who will challenge them to grow; it’s about looking frankly at their
deficiencies and seeking to remedy them.
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Let’s do a comparision of Fixed Mindset
and Growth Mindset:
Fixed Mindset
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Growth Mindset
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Wants to prove
intelligence or talent.
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Wants to improve
intelligence or talent.first time.
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Avoids challenges
for fear of failure.
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Engages challenges
to improve.
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Gives up in the
face of tough obstacles.
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Persists in
overcoming obstacles.
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Avoids hard labor.
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Sees labor as the
path to success.
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Treats criticism as
an attack.
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Treats criticism as
an opportunity.
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Feels threatened by
others’ success.
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Feels inspired by
others’ success.
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You like to have a growth mindset?
Here’s what can you do to start with:
Don't Say
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Do Say
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I'm so stupid.
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What am I missing?
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I'm awesome at
this.
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I seem to be on the
right track.
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I just can’t do
math.
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I’m going to train
my brain in math.
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This is too hard.
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This is going to
take some time.
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She’s so smart, she
makes me sick.
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I’m going to figure
out how she’s doing it.
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It’s fine the way
it is, & yours isn’t any better.
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That’s an
interesting idea for improvement.
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Yes, you can latch onto a growth
mindset by being aware of the things you say to yourself.
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For me, if I see everything I don’t know as an
opportunity to grow my mind, than I don’t feel so small, stupid or fearful.
Having a growth mindset helps me cope with uncertainty and reduces the
insecurity in me.
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Remind yourself to put on a growth mindset tonight
for our toastmasters session, ok?
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Poh Lian is the table topics master. For tonight, the table topics are words from the theme, and besides the chosen topic, each speaker has to relate this topic with the earlier topic chosen by the earlier speaker.
Poh Lian is the table topics master. For tonight, the table topics are words from the theme, and besides the chosen topic, each speaker has to relate this topic with the earlier topic chosen by the earlier speaker.
Our first time guest, Sim Boon Heng attempting table topics.
Eng Kai & Lye Sum delivered their advanced speech projects.
Siew Choo taking the role of Ah Counter the first time.
Cheng Chuan performing the role of SAA first time.
Presenting token of appreciation to Boon Heng, first time guest.
Token of appreciation for Visiting Toastmaster, Benny Kee
Best table topics speaker Ong Lye Sum
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